Happiness is defined as the state of being happy. Don’t you just love it when the dictionary uses the same word to describe the meaning of a word! How repetitive can we be!
What is being happy? According to the dictionary, happy means showing pleasure or contentment. Mind you, pleasure and contentment are different. We all can feel pleasure in doing something that is fun to us no matter what it is. Happiness is pure, unadulterated excitement and each of us find happiness in diverse ways. Contentment is being satisfied which brings a sense of fulfillment that happiness does not bring. Contentment brings peace, calmness, and comfort to our beings. Contentment is similar to what meditation does for us whereas happiness is an energetic, contagious feeling of enthusiasm. Being happy is a state of a natural high that you cannot get from drugs.
Being happy is a choice and being happy is different for each person. No one can make you happy, but you. Don’t get me wrong, people in our lives can make us happy and bring happiness into our lives. But true happiness comes from within each of us and until we see that, happiness cannot truly be gained. Finding what makes you happy, what makes you excited naturally will consistently pump throughout your body and gives you the driving force to continue on that path. Giving and helping others in different ways is a great way to find what you are passionate about the most. When you are in school learning different subjects, you find what you love & enjoy that way.
No matter what we go through in life (the good, bad, trying, or easy), we choose how we feel with it. We are in charge of our life, no one else. Sure, it’s easy to succumb to the hard blows in life and just want to give up at times. But without those difficult times, how can we know about contentment and happiness. When we choose to see what is possible through the pain and through the trying times, we can find happiness and contentment and we can choose to learn from what we have experienced. When you are miserable and sad, it brings you down, it affects your mood, it can affect your well-being, and it affects everyone around you. Believe me, I have been there. It affected my health in multiple ways and not for the better. Don’t let the trials of life drown you instead choose to let them rise you up; you will be a better person from it.
Someone recently said to me, I just want you to be happy. Given we were talking about men and dating, I bit my tongue and didn’t say anything. Why? Because I don’t need a man to be happy. I am happy with my life overall and that is all that matters. It doesn’t matter what others think or say, but it matters what I think and what I want in (or from) life. I cannot be guaranteed that a man will come in my life, so I do need to be happy and content with where I am in life (& what I have) which I am. I do want to be in love and be loved, but by the right man. I will not settle when it comes to love. I did that once and I will not do it again.
Happiness is the road to a better life, but pair it with contentment and you will by far exceed the expectations of anyone (even yourself). The alternative is no way to live.